About Me

    Remi Abolafia, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

    How I got here

    For as long as I can remember, I have enjoyed hearing people's stories. I remember sitting at the nail salon with my mom, listening to customers tell their manicurists about their problems. I was six years old and I did not know that manicurists were not actual therapists. I even wrote in my elementary school yearbook that I wanted to be a manicurist, because I was certain that was the career for me.

    I was not entirely wrong. Manicurists are the unsung heroes of that particular arrangement. But eventually I understood what I was actually drawn to and I went to graduate school to do it properly.

    I studied psychology at the University of Massachusetts Amherst and became interested in complex trauma, grief, loss and bereavement. I volunteered on inpatient oncology units as well as at the Center for Hope, a program for children who had lost a parent or sibling and for their families. I graduated from Fordham with my Master of Social Work in 2020, during the first months of the pandemic and took a position at Bellevue Hospital in the children's psychiatric emergency room.

    I then returned to oncology at Memorial Sloan Kettering, where I work with cancer patients and their families. I trained in Meaning-Centered Psychotherapy, an approach developed at MSK for people facing a terminal diagnosis. I also serve on the hospital's bereavement program and have supervised social work interns.

    Training

    I am a psychoanalytic candidate at the American Institute for Psychoanalysis. Candidacy involves coursework, ongoing supervision of my clinical work, and being in analysis myself several times a week.

    I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New York and New Jersey.