Curated Reading
The Bookshelf
Books I return to and recommend often. Each one has something true to say about what it means to be human.
Anxiety

Susan Nolen-Hoeksema
"A sharp, compassionate look at the trap of rumination — why we get stuck in our own heads, and how to find a way out."

Judson Brewer
"Explores the habit loops that keep anxiety alive — and offers a way of relating to anxious feelings that actually works."

Sarah Wilson
"A raw, unconventional memoir about living with anxiety — not as something to be fixed, but as something to be understood."
Attachment

Thomas Lewis, Fari Amini & Richard Lannon
"Three psychiatrists writing about how love literally shapes the brain. Poetic and scientific at once — one of the most beautiful books about human connection ever written."

Robert Karen
"The untold story of attachment theory — how it was discovered, fought over, and ultimately changed everything we know about early relationships."

Sue Johnson
"The clearest guide to understanding attachment in adult relationships — what we need from each other, and why it's so hard to ask for it."
Depression

Andrew Solomon
"The most comprehensive and compassionate exploration of depression ever written — personal, political, historical, and deeply humane."

William Styron
"Short and devastating — a novelist's attempt to find language for an experience that resists it. Considered a classic for good reason."

Johann Hari
"A provocative argument that depression is rooted in disconnection — from meaning, from other people, from ourselves. Worth reading and worth arguing with."
Grief & Loss

Elizabeth Alexander
"A poet's memoir about the sudden loss of her husband — devastatingly beautiful and about how we hold those we have lost."

Paul Kalanithi
"A neurosurgeon facing terminal illness writes about meaning, mortality, and what makes a life worth living. Impossible to read without being changed."

Francis Weller
"A psychotherapist writing about grief as a sacred, communal experience — not a problem to be solved but a territory to be entered with care."
Mood Disorders

Kay Redfield Jamison
"A psychiatrist's memoir of living with bipolar disorder — elegant, honest, and written with a rare combination of clinical precision and raw vulnerability."

Sylvia Plath
"A literary classic that captures the inner experience of breakdown more truthfully than most clinical texts. Still startling, still necessary."

Andy Behrman
"A raw, chaotic memoir of bipolar disorder — very different in tone from Jamison but equally honest about what it feels like from the inside."
Relational

Susan Cain
"A landmark exploration of introversion and how it shapes the way we relate, communicate, and need connection — deeply validating for anyone who has felt misunderstood."

Alice Miller
"Short, devastating, essential. About how we lose ourselves early in life to meet the needs of others — and what it takes to find our way back."

Lori Gottlieb
"A therapist's own experience in therapy — warm, funny, and deeply honest about what it means to be seen by another person."
Trauma

Nadine Burke Harris
"A pediatrician's groundbreaking work on adverse childhood experiences and how early adversity shapes the body and mind across a lifetime."

Michele Filgate, ed.
"A stunning essay collection about family silence, inherited pain, and the stories we carry without knowing it."

Roxane Gay
"A memoir about trauma living in the body — unflinching, tender, and true in a way that few books about difficult experience manage to be."

Gabor Maté
"A profound exploration of the connection between stress, suppressed emotion, and physical illness — and what the body carries when the mind cannot."